For the 8th consecutive year, Jeff Yalden visited the great students of Bucks County Technical High School (BCTHS), in Fairless Hills, PA. Here is a quick video of Jeff’s visit. Jeff Yalden is a youth motivational speaker and a mental health speaker speaking to high schools, middle schools, college and universities. His message is great for students, teachers, and parents. Whether you are interested in a speaker for motivational, social media, bullying, character education, mental health, or suicide prevention, Jeff Yalden is your speaker. Visit his website at www.JeffYalden.com
Imagine if the Zero Tolerance Policy in schools existed and were enforced. Here is a solution where everyone becomes accountable, but first everyone has to understand that everyone is human and has the need for purpose and acceptance. We need to teach a culture of compassion. This is the ABC’s of Bullying Prevention. Bullying – The ABC’s of Ending Bullying from Jeff Yalden on Vimeo. For more information about Jeff Yalden speaking to Middle School Assemblies and High School Assemblies please visit Youth Motivational Speaker Jeff Yalden’s website at www.JeffYalden.com.
Hey friends, Jeff Yalden here. You know, for many years I always thought my way was the right way. Tell me I’m not the only one, right? I had a moment a month ago or so – where I learned to live and let live and that I need to accept things for the way they are rather than the way we think they should be. Likewise, we need to accept others for who they are rather than who we want them to be. Make sense? Summertime brings family and friends together for BBQ’s, parties, and great times. During these times of celebration, we sometimes find ourselves not being fully present. When we are not fully present we don’t allow ourselves to truly be ourselves and love openly and enjoy the time we have together because we get sidetracked in our minds or in reality, because:
- We spend time worrying about whether we have others’ approval or how we can get it
- We spend time trying to convince others that our way is right and their way is wrong
- We get caught up in thinking and behavior patterns of an older version of ourselves
- We see others according to our labels and judgements of them, rather than who they really are
- Everyone has their own path that is right and true for them. We all have a way of living and approaching each day that works for us. And it’s natural for us to want others, especially those we love, to follow our path too. It’s important to recognize though, that trying to convince others that our way is best, will usually lead to disappointment. On the contrary, change can surprisingly and naturally occur in others when we stay true to our own path, without trying to change a thing about theirs. And if it doesn’t, that’s okay too.
- We can still show love to others when we disagree with their way. Just because we don’t agree with how someone else lives their life, it doesn’t mean we have to change how we interact with them and whether or not we extend love and care towards them. Rather than being threatened, dismayed or frustrated by our differences, we can celebrate them.
- Rather than trying to change others, focus on yourself. We empower ourselves when we shift attention away from how others live, and place our awareness on our own lives.
A Change Is in Order Nothing changes until you change. While the difficult takes time, the seemingly impossible just takes a little longer. Today marks one year since the day that my dad knocked on my door about midnight in early August and told me to get up. He and my mom were worried about me. He called 911, and I was rushed off to the emergency room. I spent the next couple days pondering my life when the endocrinologist looked at me and said that I had been moments from something catastrophic happening. He didn’t say days; the doctor said I had only been moments from losing my life. I have diabetes type 2. My weight was 344 pounds. My blood pressure was high. My A1C blood test was 14.9 where a normal range is 4.5 to 6 percent. I was in really bad shape. A high triglycerides level is 200 to 499 mg/dL, but my triglycerides were beyond high at 2,784. A year later, I look back on that day and ask myself what has changed, and the answer is simple—nothing has changed. And I’ve thought about it day and night. I think about being self-disciplined, I think about routine, I think about structure, and if I’m going to be honest with myself, I think about all I’ve made is one excuse after another. I said, “Tomorrow I’ll change. I’ll do it tomorrow.” And then I said, “How about on Monday? Monday I’ll start.” But when you talk about a specific starting date or you talk about starting tomorrow, that only says one thing—it says that you’re not really committed to making the change. My weight is down to 337 pounds, and because of medications, all of my blood sugars and my blood work are okay; my health is in check, I’m feeling good. Actually, I’m feeling great! But that is nothing more than a Band-Aid on the real problem. As I talked today with my personal trainer and another emergency room doctor at the Crossfit Center, we decided to get real with each other. Well, they’ve actually been real with me for a while; I just haven’t been real with myself. They’ve designed thirty-one workouts of the day. I’ve completed only ten of them. I need to be honest with them and with myself. I do travel. I am on the road a lot, but they have also devised workouts in that plan that I can do while I’m traveling. So the bottom line is this: In one year, I haven’t changed, but I’ve continued to make a lot of excuses. I am going to commit to three simple things right now.
- I’m going to wake up each day with a commitment: a commitment to myself and a commitment to my health.
- I am going to keep a written account. Every single day, I am going to write down where I am and where I’m going, what I did for a workout, and what my diet consisted of.
- I am going to set a goal that is specific, attainable, and measureable.
When you wake up to start your day, do you have expectations of how people are going to treat you or how they may perceive you? There is something in this world that you simply cannot change – and that’s other people. When you live your life expecting certain outcomes, or certain expectations, you become disappointed. [Read more…]
I had an awesome week. I spoke everywhere from Pittsburgh, PA, to Albany, to Wyoming, and then I finished off in Denver. I’ve got the greatest job in the world. As motivational speaker for teens, I got to speak to over 6,000 students, teachers and educators this week. [Read more…]