Youth motivational speaker and Amazon bestselling author Jeff Yalden continues his series of “from the heart” talks in episode nine of The BOOM Podcast. This time, he spoke about the journey versus the destination, mainly because he experienced a revelation of sorts as he was driving back home from a workout. “While we are all young, we are trying to achieve our goals and trying to put the plan in place,” he said. “We have a dream – and that dream is to someday arrive at this destination where we think, ‘finally I have arrived’ – and maybe happiness or fulfillment is there.” To illustrate this subject, Jeff told two stories about a couple of road trips he made on his motorcycle. Five or six years ago, Jeff said he took an incredible vacation on his Harley that took him from his then home in Cape Cod, Ma., all the way down to the Great Smoky Mountains in Tennessee for what is known as an Iron Butt run – the point of which is to ride 1000 miles in 24 hours. “As I look back, I remember the ride. The ride to the destination,” he said. “My destination was the Smoky Mountains, but all I remember is the journey and getting there. I remember the ride home. I remember completing the 1000 miles in 24 hours.” Another such trip had him on the road for nine days. He wanted to go to Sturgis, S.D., for the annual and very popular bike rally held there. “I take off on the motorcycle, and I’ve got my helmet on. I get into Rhode Island, where I was able to take my helmet off. The weather was absolutely stunning. There wasn’t a cloud in the sky, and it was about 75-80 degrees. I rode the motorcycle to Williamsport, Pa., where I had to do a speaking engagement that morning.” After that speaking gig, he got back on the Harley and rode with no helmet from Pennsylvania, through Ohio, into Indiana – up into Illinois and Wisconsin, and finally into South Dakota four days later. “It was beautiful, and probably the best four best days of my life: Just me, the motorcycle and my music,” he said. “And then I arrived in Sturgis for Bike Week. I wanted to go see Mount Rushmore – aka Heads on a Rock. I got out there and I thought, ‘well, I’ve arrived. Now what?’” For him, the “now what” was getting back on the motorcycle and making his way back to Cape Cod. “I always wanted to go to Sturgis. It has always been on my bucket list, but you know what I remember most? I remember eight days with not a cloud in the sky. Eight days of riding with – for the most part – not even a helmet on – and just music.” As Jeff was leaving the gym the day he recorded this episode of The BOOM Podcast, he had an epiphany. “We all get caught up looking forward to tomorrow. We look forward to next week, next month – next year. We look forward to when we get that new car – buy that new house – we look forward to when we lose weight or we have a better job or we have more money. We look forward to this or we look forward to that.” But then when we think we have what we think will make us better off, we realize that this wasn’t the answer to true happiness. As Jeff was driving home, he enjoyed a feeling of happiness, but he couldn’t help but ask himself why he felt that way. “I thought to myself that I don’t really know what my destination is. I don’t know what my goals are right now or what my epic dream is. I don’t really know what my purpose is – and this isn’t a bad thing. I have changed so much in the past four years.” He believes many of us struggle with the idea of a destination. We think we are supposed to have a greater purpose – a bigger dream or a defined plan with concrete goals. “I think we should keep asking those questions, but as I sit here right now, I think the journey every day is what we remember most versus the destination. If you are not happy today, you need to really look within yourself and ask why – and you need to figure out what you need to do. Is life perfect? Life will never be perfect. Is life fair? Life will never be fair.” We have good days and bad days, but Yalden said the thing we have to understand is that happy people are not happy all of the time. “Happy people choose to be happy about the moments – the moments that are in their lives – and we have moments all the time in the journey to where someday we arrive at that destination,” he said. What is more important, the destination or the journey? “I think our total fulfillment comes from appreciating the journey, and in the journey, be patient in the process. Find out more about Jeff Yalden HERE. LISTEN to this episode of The BOOM Podcast SUBSCRIBE to The BOOM Podcast GRAB your copy of BOOM! One Word to Instantly Inspire Action, Deliver Rewards, and Positively Affect Your Life Every Day. JOIN the BOOM Nation group on Facebook and share your BOOM moments.
For this, the eighth episode of motivational speaker and Amazon bestselling author Jeff Yalden’s BOOM Podcast, he decided to once again speak from the heart – this time about something that had been weighing on his heart: Dealing with resentment and anger. Yalden makes no bones about being very open and honest when it comes to his own mental health and is an advocate for speaking out about mental health in general. And in this case, this is for two reasons: 1) He is open about his mental health because it is a part of his career and he is very passionate about it. 2) Talking about it helps him to encourage and support others in their journeys in learning to deal with whatever issues they may have. “You might be having issues with your husband, your wife or significant other,” he said. “You could be having issues with family, or struggling with your issues from the past – maybe you are still upset that your mom and dad tightened your diaper too tight when you were two years old – and you are still having trouble dealing with those issues.” In this episode of The BOOM Podcast, Jeff brings the BOOM to resentment and anger, starting with the BOOM that it’s OK to ask for help. “When you ask for help and you continue to ask the question, the answer should come. But too many people are afraid to admit that they might need help,” he said. This could be asking for help by getting therapy or being prescribed appropriate medication by a physician. “People don’t want to admit that they are getting help dealing with things, which I think is ignorant. You could learn to live with mental health issues and lead a very fulfilling and meaningful life.” When he recorded this podcast episode, Jeff had recently gone through four rough days. “I was feeling resentment and anger in my heart, and that was a feeling that I am not used to, but for whatever reason, we all have these triggers that produce different emotions,” he said. Many of our resentments come from situations in our pasts. “Until a situation is dealt with and has closure, we can’t put it to bed. If we still harbor those feelings from then, that’s not healthy. I want to share with you something that I think is very simple, but it’s also very important: You need to have a resolution for your past. If you don’t have a resolution, then you are going to feel that resentment and anger.” Let it go. Jeff brought up the topic of divorce. If you are no longer in a relationship with someone, you owe nothing to that person. You don’t owe any emotion to that person. “When we carry that emotion forward – when we carry that resentment, it’s because you are dealing with something that is still in the present,” he said. Divorce can be tricky because, even though the old relationship is gone, things like finances, alimony and child support might still be in play – and there is no resolution because a person could be dealing with something that is still in the present. But Yalden said that this is less about them than it is about you. Responsibilities and obligations might factor into this equation and must be dealt with, but some of the resentment can be alleviated by talking a proactive approach to these obligations. “Don’t avoid situations in your life,” he said. “Don’t avoid responsibility and obligations in your life. When your resentment and anger doesn’t have a resolution, that’s because two sides can’t meet or that’s because of something you are dealing with in the present.” Let go of the past and meet your responsibilities today. This is the path to clarity. “So now you have the present that you are dealing with. That’s your obligation. That’s your responsibility. That’s where adulting comes in. You address that issue with [the other party] to find resolution or you need to take responsibility for the situation to take care of it in your heart. You address it. Don’t avoid it and deflect the attention so that it stays off you – that’s when you get into a lot of trouble.” During those recent rough days, Yalden brought the BOOM and scheduled a counseling appointment. “I went and sat down with my counselor for an hour and a half. I had one of the most amazing talks that we have ever had. And I love visiting my counselor because she said, ‘Jeff, you think at such high levels now that this isn’t even counseling anymore.’” He was very proud of that because it meant that he was doing good work and constantly seeking to be a better person. BOOM is a factor and an effect. In this case, the factor was that Yalden took steps to address his anger and resentment in counseling – and the effect was the reward of clarity from having addressed the issue. “That’s where we live the BOOM. It’s one word that can change your life. BOOM is motivation and BOOM is reward. If you have issues in your life that you need to address, don’t be too proud and don’t have too much of an ego that says, ‘Yo, I’m fine. I don’t need to talk to anyone.’ I think that’s an immature response. I think it’s a childish response. I don’t think you are any less of a person because you take medication or you seek help.” To learn more about Jeff Yalden, click HERE. Listen to episode 8 of The BOOM Podcast HERE. GRAB your copy of BOOM! One Word to Instantly Inspire Action and Deliver Rewards and Positively Affect Your Life Every Day. JOIN the BOOM Nation Facebook community and share your BOOM moments.
In episode 6 of The BOOM Podcast, speaker and Amazon bestselling author Jeff Yalden welcomes certified personal trainer, health coach and fitness model Lona Sargent. Sargent spoke with Jeff from her home in Delray Beach, Florida, where after some struggles and personal revelations, her career is now thriving. Yalden and Sargent share a connection, a personal trainer and friend named Brian Carl Story, who sadly succumbed to the disease of addiction last year. Sargent met Story after she moved to South Florida and made the decision to seek a personal trainer. Sargent grew up in Maine, and played sports there. When she first came to Delray Beach, she got into a cycle of drinking and the party scene – but realized that she could not continue like that. “I went and got a personal trainer,” she said. “I sat down that day in LA Fitness, the head of all of the personal trainers there was like, ‘I’ve got someone for you who will whip your ass into shape, and he pointed to Brian.” From day one, Sargent said Story inspired her in so many ways, pushing her in her routine – and the pair became very close. Yalden said he watched Story’s journey from when he got out of rehab to when he was getting really focused, losing weight and shredding. “I was just always inspired by his motivation and determination – and his presence. I followed him, and when he did his fitness competitions, I would send him a video. I just really fell in love with this guy,” he said. When Sargent first started going to LA Fitness, she was still going out and drinking, but she would tell Story about what she was up to. He would constantly tell her that she needed to clean up her act. “He was just a really good friend to have – a great trainer, but he was like my therapist too. I came to him with all my problems and he always had the best advice. It wasn’t just beating around the bush. He told me how it was, and I really respected him for that,” she said. Even though she was doing regular workouts, Yalden suggested that she wasn’t yet ready to bring the BOOM and make immediate change. But Story kept pushing and encouraging her. “I had no confidence,” she said. “He was trying to pound it into my head – ‘you come in here and barely try and you look good. Can you imagine what you would look like if you pushed it and gave it your all?’” She never liked hearing it, and because she thought he was just being nice, she didn’t really take it to heart. Story was Sargent’s personal trainer for about a year. Little-by-little, he would confide in her about his own struggles with addiction. “He would just be very honest with me, and I thought the same way I could be honest with him. There is no judgement there ever. That just made me have more respect for him – to see where he was in such a short amount of time. He had come so far – so I really was inspired by him,” she said. The plain fact is that we all have our own struggles and demons to overcome. “Everyone has them,” Sargent said. “No one is perfect. You might look at someone and think that they have it all together, but they don’t. Everyone has their struggles, and it’s just really important that we all recognize that.” Yalden is a big believer in transparency – especially in the journey to improvement. “One of the things I often say is that, if you look in the mirror and you don’t like the reflection – don’t blame it on the mirror,” he said. “The first place it starts is when you look in the mirror and you become truthful and real with that reflection.” After a trip back home to Maine, where she said she went through a couple of traumatic things, Sargent finally had her BOOM moment when she went on a cruise after returning to Florida last summer. “I said to myself – OK – something’s got to change. I can’t just keep waking up every morning and feeling like there is something missing. I just was not happy with my life at all, and kept making the same horrible choices.” On the last day of the cruise, Sargent logged on to Facebook and saw the tragic news that Brian Story had passed away. “I never had that feeling before, but after that I was like, ‘alright – my life is changing from here on out. I felt like the only thing I had left of him was to do what he always said I could do.” Lona brought the BOOM and prevailed. She is now someone to watch – an up-and-comer in health coaching and fitness modeling – empowering other women to bring their BOOM. “I like working with women in their 20s and 30s or 40s – and people who were just once in a good place and kind of lost it,” she said. We’ve all been there – and that’s a lot of my clientele – that’s mainly who they are. Women like that. And I just help them to get their confidence back and uncover things that they never thought that they were capable of.” And her future couldn’t be brighter. “I changed my life and that feels great – but changing someone else’s life is a feeling I never even knew existed. It’s just surreal. Amazing.” Listen to the full BOOM Podcast episode HERE. Check out Lona Sargent’s YouTube channel HERE. Visit Lona’s website HERE. Grab your copy of BOOM HERE. Click HERE to discover more about Jeff Yalden. Join the BOOM Nation Facebook Group HERE.
Youth motivational speaker and author Jeff Yalden is heating things up with his BOOM Podcast. The perfect companion to his Amazon bestseller, BOOM! One Word to Instantly Inspire Action, Deliver Rewards, and Positively Affect Your Life Every Day, the BOOM Podcast drills down on principles from the book, but also features folks who have brought the BOOM into their lives – with awesome results. Episode 2 does just that. For the first interview, Jeff welcomes speaker, author, entrepreneur and fellow podcaster Mark Minard. Minard is president and CEO of Dreamshine, an adult day program and facility developed to serve individuals with special needs – including vocational training, life and independent living skills training, social skills coaching and much more. He is the author of the bestselling book, The Story of You: Transforming Adversity into Adventure, Taking Your Dreams to the Next Level and Beyond and co-host of the podcast, Elevating Beyond, which currently boasts more than one million downloads on iTunes. Pretty impressive for a guy who will tell you that he was in jail at 17, the culmination of the choices he made involving hanging with the wrong crowd – using and selling drugs. His transformation has been astounding. “I wanted to reach out to a friend I have great respect for,” said Yalden. The Story of You is all about helping people transform adversity into adventure, and this is because he did that in his own life. When he woke up in a jail cell at 17, his face was smashed in because of a beating he took as a result of an incident in a fast food drive-through where he rear-ended another vehicle. He said he was not only going down the wrong path, but he and his roommates were doing and selling every type of drug. Both of those roommates are now dead. “I didn’t even know how I had gotten there,” he said. “I found out that my blood alcohol was so high that – normally when they read that on a report, they would just assume someone was dead from beyond alcohol poisoning.” He had also been drugging, and the guy who beat the living daylights out of him had priors for assault. Minard said that at the time he was still in a victim mindset, but this was rock-bottom. He was so scared that he really wanted to change his life. Slowly but surely, Minard started associating with positive people. “I realized that I was going to end up dead – or I was going to end up killing somebody else from the way I was living my life.” Jeff often says to his audiences that you don’t do drugs. Drugs do you. In this fast-paced BOOM Podcast, Minard tells the story of his rise, Phoenix-like, from the ashes of failure and into the bright light of service, success and hope – from graduating from high school by the skin of his teeth to successfully completing college – to starting Dreamshine (with sister Amy) – and the eventual publication of his book, his speaking career and the launch of his podcast. Some people think Minard just arrived on the scene as if out of thin air. Nothing could be further from the truth. “The thing about my speaking and the book launch is that a lot of people don’t know that I had ten years before that of building a company from the ground up and starting Dreamshine. They thought I just came out of nowhere,” he said. Minard said he is thankful for the adversity he has encountered in his life precisely because he was able to transform it into what took him on his adventure – and gave him the desire to help change the lives of others. And Yalden notes that nothing changes if nothing changes. “That’s part of the BOOM. It’s like something’s got to go off and you’ve got to suddenly take responsibility. You are not the victim. You are the victor.” Minard said his college experience was not easy because, unlike many people, he did not have a photographic memory and learned differently. But he came away with some awesome revelations. “I learned that the true factors for success were perseverance, determination and grit,” Minard said. Yalden asked Minard why some people call him “the man that never gives up.” “I’m going to go after it harder than anyone else and longer. It’s the long game.” Minard is a big believer in believing in something bigger than ourselves. “That’s really what it’s all about, and so I get fired up my not giving up. I live by actions – and I think your actions speak for you. Your fruits speak for you much louder than words,” he said. There is so much in this podcast: The value of family [Minard is married with 5 kids]. Celebrating small victories. Taking action. The power of purpose. It’s all here, including the story of how Mark met and eventually interviewed serial entrepreneur and four-time New York Times bestselling author, Gary Vaynerchuk. Yalden was also a guest on Minard’s podcast last year. Listen to the BOOM Podcast HERE. For more about Mark Minard, go HERE. Grab your copy of BOOM HERE. Join the BOOM Facebook community HERE.
In tandem with the release of his Amazon bestseller, BOOM! One Word to Instantly Inspire Action, Deliver Rewards, and Positively Affect Your Life Every Day, author and speaker Jeff Yalden has launched his BOOM Podcast – the perfect companion to bring the BOOM into your life, reinforcing the principles laid out in his life-changing book and digs even deeper, featuring people who have implemented the BOOM in their lives as well. A leading youth motivational and mental health speaker for more than two decades, Yalden has addressed more than 4000 teen audiences in all 50 states, every province in Canada and 49 countries including Singapore and Vietnam. His message has always been hard-hitting, bringing a world of actionable principles to the table and inspiring his audiences to take personal responsibility in all areas of their lives. And now he has taken these principles and given them life in his book and in his podcast. In this inaugural episode, Jeff explains with astonishing honesty and self-reflection where the BOOM comes from, what it means to him and why he decided to write the book. “It’s pretty simple,” he said. “In this first episode, I want to come clean and give you guys a sense of where I have come from to where I am now, and how the BOOM really impacts everything I do.” As he talked about in the book, coming to his BOOM moment involved a series of major setbacks that could have stopped him in his tracks, or worse. About four years ago, Jeff went through a divorce which ended a 14-year marriage. Instead of placing the blame on anybody else, he went straight to the mirror and asked himself tough questions, coming to the realization that his mental health issues were much more severe than he thought them to be at the time. Jeff was pre-diabetic and putting on weight. He said he knew what to do and what to eat, but was basically ignoring the warning signs. “All of a sudden I was a full-fledged diabetic, but I still didn’t pay attention,” he said. He vividly recalls the time he went to his parents’ house, physically exhausted and mentally drained and with his diabetes flaring up. “I told them I felt like I was going to die and I didn’t want to die alone. They gave me some orange juice and something to eat, and I went home a few hours later.” But his parents intervened that night. Jeff’s dad came to his house, woke him up, and called an ambulance for him. Jeff was a mess. His triglycerides were a jaw-dropping 2784, his blood sugar over 500 and his A1C level was 15.5. “My endocrinologist said to me that at any moment something catastrophic was going to happen,” he said, adding that even despite these serious warning signs, he still didn’t make the necessary changes, citing his grueling speaking and travel schedule as a deterrent to a healthy lifestyle. And that’s not all by any means. He endured a spinal cord fusion because of a CrossFit injury and was immobilized for six weeks. “I couldn’t speak for almost four months and I ended up having a mental breakdown. My diabetes was flaring up and my depression got worse. I wanted to give up, and I did,” he said. He quit speaking and got a 9-to-5 job, thinking at the time that he just wanted to have what he calls a normal job. He packed up his office – his life – into cardboard boxes: Computer, fax machine, mementos, awards – even his varsity letters and photos – essentially getting rid of everything near and dear. But something awesome began to happen when he started going back to counseling once a week. “When I walked in there, I was emotionally broken. I was not the Jeff Yalden that many of you know. We started at the beginning and built a toolbox, and I began rewarding myself for small victories.” As a result of building this toolbox, Jeff eventually made the decision to go home and restore his office and get back to doing what he loves. This was his first BOOM moment. Jeff also started taking care of himself – including a gastric sleeve surgery that might well have saved his life. “That was something I needed to do for me, and when I did do it – it was like – BOOM! That was the reward. I don’t have to let my weight be something that monopolizes my every waking thought anymore. I am down 80 pounds. I am free of diabetes. I brought the BOOM into my life. I celebrate with the BOOM every single day.” Jeff Yalden has come back stronger than ever, reestablishing his place among the best of the best. “The BOOM is about you taking responsibility. The BOOM is about you saying, ‘I can do this.’ And the BOOM is about rewarding yourself for your accomplishments and little victories. Remember: Nothing changes if nothing changes.” To listen to the BOOM Podcast, click HERE. The BOOM will change your life. Grab this Amazon bestseller now by clicking HERE. Join the BOOM Facebook community HERE.
Youth motivational speaker Jeff Yalden is stoked about his new book, BOOM! One Word to Instantly Inspire Action, Deliver Rewards, and Positively Affect Your Life Every Day! BOOM is a book about motivation and inspiration – a book Jeff has been working on since he went through a spinal cord fusion last year while also battling type 2 diabetes, losing 80 pounds along the way. He briefly retired from professional speaking, but has since come back stronger than ever, reestablishing his place among the best of the best. “I am excited to get this book out there,” he said. “It is a book that is about celebrating little victories every single day.” But why BOOM? He recalls attending his nephew’s middle school basketball tournament recently in Wisconsin. “I was so excited. My nephew is going into 7th grade and he is already 6’3” – he is a beast – just a straight-up savage beast.” His nephew was controlling the boards and putting up 20 points a game. “Every time he or his team would score, I’d yell ‘BOOM!’ By the end of the two-day tournament, everyone in the gym was yelling ‘BOOM!’ They loved it, and I was really excited.” The BOOM stuck – permanently enshrined in this captivating new book. But what is the BOOM? BOOM is a revolutionary mindset that is about to bring awesome back into your life. BOOM is a factor and an effect. The BOOM is the jet fuel you need to be able to turn challenges into new opportunities and to reward yourself after every accomplishment and every plan successfully executed. And in this book – Jeff will help you discover your BOOM! “I want this book to be for young adults. I want this book to be for parents and people that struggle with mental illness. This book is about taking responsibility every single day – about adding one simple word into your life to take action – but it’s also one simple word that gives you reward for a job well-done – whether you made those three phone calls this morning – whether you got up and did something you didn’t want to do – whether you had to struggle through a project and at the end – like, fist bump – chest bump – you did it!” This brief read can change your life. “The average person only reads less than ten percent of a book – so I wrote a book 18000 words long. That’s it. I wanted it that way. I wanted you to read it – and then pass it on to a friend. That was my intention as I wrote this book.” BOOM launches on Amazon on May 28, but is being offered for pre-release for just 99 cents. That’s right – for less than a buck, you can download BOOM and start to make a change in your life! Simply head over to www.jeffyalden.com/BOOM and sign up to be notified when the pre-release drops. Also – Jeff really wants the BOOM to be significant in your life. He wants it to work for you, and invites you to be a part of his launch team by joining the BOOM Facebook group – www.facebook.com/groups/OneWordBoom. This is a place for you to share excitement – to share where the BOOM has been successfully implemented in your life. You can also see the BOOM moments and rewards that others are experiencing on this journey. “This is about a team. This is about togetherness. This is about BOOM – being a family. This is about all of us changing our lives and putting our best lives out there. This is about likeminded people. Call it the BOOM Mastermind Group.” Are you ready? If so, your BOOM awaits you. “You can change your influences. You can change your situation, but you’ve got to be wanting to make change in your life – and I think if you want to make a change, this book is going to be something that you need to read.”