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Inspiring Conversations: Ep.1 – Bobby Petrocelli

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You Matter . . . IT Doesn’t

I got on ZOOM about five minutes before our time of 12:00pm, April 1, 2020. No, this is not an April fools joke. By the way, I don’t like April fools. I said to Bobby, “Bobby, excited to speak with you. Tell me a couple things on your heart that you want to talk about today?” I knew right away if he gave me a couple things, I’d have questions from listening to his wisdom and passion. Right away, Bobby mentioned his book, YOU MATTER . . . IT DOESN’T. He said, “I want to talk about the WHY behind the IT. Great conversation I thought to myself because I knew exactly where he was thinking with this and it’s right up my ally. I composed myself and started with a prayer . . .

A Talk Show is BORN!

During this interview with Bobby Petrocelli I thought, “I need to do a YouTube Channel on inspiring conversations, and here we are. Just like that the show is created. Now to figure out how to make a YouTube Talk Show.

I’ll figure that out because right now, nothing much is happening and I have the time while we struggle with social isolation, schools closed, and being out of work. It’s during times like this where you have time to create new ideas that might take off. We can choose victim or victor, right? I love Bobby Petrocelli. He’s a great man and an amazing speaker I have known for many years. When I get a chance to interview him . . . I get excited myself. He’s an inspiration. Knowledgeable. He’s a man of God. He cares about youth and families. He cares about people. www.10Seconds.org

IT HAPPENED . . .

What is IT? The IT represents the result of something. Bobby talked about his wife being killed by a drunk driver when he was 24 years old. The IT is his wife was killed by a drunk driver. The WHY is what we don’t often talk about. The IT leaves us angry, hurt, resentful, and broken amongst other feelings. We end up going through life carrying this feeling because we don’t move past IT.

WHY did IT Happen

The WHY is behind the WHAT, the IT, and gives us the answers we are looking for so we can move forward in coping with whatever it is we are coping with. The WHY takes us on a journey to understand what needs to be understood. If we don’t ask questions we are never healed through whatever pain we are going through. IT happened and we can’t change it, but we can change how we grow, cope, and move forward in a healthy way. For Bobby, he was prepared as much as anyone can prepare for something tragic like this. He said, “If we don’t ask the WHY then IT will dominate your life,” and he wasn’t going to let that happen. Bobby is a man of faith. A strong man of God. He right away talked about forgiveness. He didn’t say that he condones when someone does something wrong or condone any wrongdoing. Forgiveness is for you and he knew that he had to forgive this man who was two times the legal limit of driving while intoxicated when his wife was killed. Forgiveness was his first step in recovery. Amazing. He’s 24 years old and he knew he had to forgive. I asked him about this attitude at 24 when most people would be angry at the world. He wasn’t. This is where Bobby said, “I had been prepared for something like this . . . ” I am not sure what exactly that meant, because who can prepare, but I knew it was his faith in God. It was also his ability to have a growth mindset and not a fixed mindset growing up and even today. I’m telling you, Bobby Petrocelli is an inspirational man.

Is What You’re Being Asked to do IMPOSSIBLE?

He made this comment and asked the question as he said he asks his audience. “You have it, whatever it is, so let’s build on it.” Bobby talked about how we have what it takes so let’s learn, be open to learning, and engage in the process everyday. I was thinking, don’t be the victim, be the victor. We have a lot in common, but he’s so much better at speaking about it. You’re never asked to do anything impossible, but when asked to do something you can choose to quit and walk away or you can choose to saddle up the boot straps and figure it out.

10 Seconds

IT happened. IT happened and he wasn’t going to fold. What got him through this time? 10 Seconds.
“It’s not one day at a time, like so many people say. For me, I couldn’t think of the next five minutes. I had to break it down to 10 Seconds. For me it was 10 Seconds at a time.”
When I was at my worst at 16 years old and 22 years old I can still remember those days. At 16 I wasn’t listening to anyone. Fixed mindset. At 22 years old I knew a little better and was very close to my grandparents. My grandmother used to say to me, “Jeff, take it one meal at a time. After dinner, go to bed, and just wake up for breakfast.” That was my 10 Seconds at a time. The thing here that I want to make clear is that it’s not that things get better with time, but it’s what you do with that time where things get better. Sometimes, it’s just putting space between a thought and an action. It’s being grounded, present in the moment, breathing, and just knowing that it will be okay.

Success: Patterns, Habits, and Routines

Nobody is better than anyone else, but some people have a routine and they’re driven. They wake up on time as they go to bed too at a set time. They don’t waste time on their smartphones doing things that don’t matter. Successful people have a purpose. Their IT is their success. They’ve created patterns, habits, and a routine to accomplish the goals they’ve set for themselves. What is the WHY? Who knows exactly what their WHY is or how they got to it, but one thing is certain . . . Everyone has been knocked down in life. You have a choice at this point. You can stay knocked down or you can get back up. Bobby got back up and he knew he needed some things in his life to be right for him to cope through this loss. You are a result of your patterns, habits, routines, attitude, friends, and commitment to  GROWTH MINDSET.

Your Friends are The ROOTS, LEAVES, or the BRANCHES

I got chills when Bobby started talking about Tyler Perry’s Madea – Let Them Go. I love this skit and it is so right. Your friends are either the roots, the leaves, or the branches. Watch the video and understand this analogy. So true.

What Works For You

First thing is engage in the process. Choose a growth mindset. Don’t be a victim. Go from the IT happened to understanding the WHY it happened. Then, it’s HOW CAN I . . .? How can I be better at this or that? How can I be a better person? How can I move forward with love, compassion, forgiveness, and be more healthy? It’s about being present in moments. Now. Not yesterday or tomorrow. Not even in five minutes, but here and now.  Within these moments what are you doing productive that works best for you? “Is what I am doing making me better or hurting me?“, Bobby said. For Bobby it was the moments where he would ask if what he was doing was helping or hurting him towards a healthy outcome. He set a mindset and here are the bullets I took from this part of the conversation:
  • Be still
  • You’re One of a Kind
  • Don’t Rob Yourself
  • Find Those Roots on a Tree as a Friends
Very simple and true.

Be Still

Be present and know that in stillness great things will happen.

You’re One of a Kind

Self-Esteem. Stop focusing on being beautiful on the outside and look within yourself and know you are one of a kind. There is nothing or nobody else like you.

Don’t Rob Yourself

You have a gift and you need to use it. Don’t let what is so special about you be robbed because you’re not seeing what is special. Self-esteem again. Know you are capable and beautiful and have a growth mindset.

Find the ROOTS on a TREE as your Friends

You want friends that aren’t there for a season. You want friends in your life that are invested and there to plant seeds and not pick the fruit. Let them go if they’re not in your life for the right reasons. Remember, YOU MATTER . . . IT DOESN’T. There is a WHY to why we are broken, rejected, abandoned, or hurt. Don’t choose to carry this pain with you through life. Growth mindset. Figure out the WHY and ask the HOW questions. Remember, forgiveness is for you. It’s not for them. Choose love. Choose you. Choose Growth. Check out Bobby Petrocelli at www.10Seconds.org. As always, I am at www.JeffYalden.com.

Jeff Yalden: 7 Rules of Life

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Mental Health Motivational Speaker Jeff Yalden
The more we get to know ourselves through counseling, wisdom, experience and daily self-care, the more comfortable we are with who we are, what life means and how we live. Enjoy my seven Rules of Life and it is my hope that you find peace, love and joy in your mental and physical well-being, just as I continue to do every day:

1. Let It Go

You are only one person. You can only do so much. If you can change a situation for the better, do so. If you can’t, let it go. Show up every day and do the best you can.

2. Ignore Gracefully

Don’t participate in drama or outside noise. Don’t listen to other people who put you down or don’t believe in you or your dreams.  Ignore those who fail to validate you or are just plain rude. Live a life that is empowering to you. Be graceful in how you respond, act, speak and do. Remember, it’s their issue. Not yours. And if people walk out on you, LET THEM GO!

3. Give It Time

We’re connected 24/7, 365 days a year. Time is at a premium and there never seems to be enough of it. Choose to bring back time by being mindful and present. Choose to bring back time by being mindful and present. Although life is about being in the moment, we must also have patience in the process of living. Perfection doesn’t exist. You matter. Perfection doesn’t matter.

4. Don’t Compare

We live in a world where everyone is trying to live a life compared to what they see on social media, and it can become an addiction. What you are accustomed to is embellished, filtered and photoshopped, depicting an image of a lifestyle that isn’t real. People are making it look like their lives are perfect and yours doesn’t measure up. Don’t get caught up in other people’s fake lives. Put the phone down and connect with people your heart to theirs.

5. Breathe & Stay Calm

It will be OK. Just breathe. Stay calm and don’t act on emotions. You don’t need to answer that email or text right now. Take time for yourself. Have balance and boundaries. Have a trusted friend that you can talk to and vent and know they’re supportive and nonjudgmental. Don’t ever be afraid to seek a counselor or therapist to learn tools for coping, communicating or problem solving. Remember, they work for you. Just breathe. It will be OK.

6. You Are Responsible

The most powerful two-letter-ten -words in the English language: “If it’s going to be, then it’s up to me.” Tough times happen. It might be your fault, or it might not – but understand this: How you move forward from anything is always your responsibility. What are you going to do? Don’t be a victim. Choose to be a victor. Don’t be bitter or angry. It does no good. Choose to be better every day. Be responsible in your behavior, your attitude and the choices you make.

7. Smile

Love will always be stronger than hate. A smile will always be better than a frown. You’ll feel the smile yourself and your smile will brighten someone else’s day. It takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile. If you can’t find a reason to smile, try this: Choose three things you are grateful for and reflect on being appreciative. Replace expectations with appreciation and gratitude.

Life Isn’t Easy

Life isn’t all rollercoasters, unicorns and rainbows. Expectations leave us disappointed. We live in an imperfect world. Things aren’t always fair nor are they black and white. Don’t get caught up in the complications of life. You can only do or be in control of so much. This can be overwhelming when you see it all in front of you. Relax. Breathe. Simplify. At the end of the day, you can’t change people, places or things. You can control you and how you live, act, and respond to people, places, and things. Live with grace, forgiveness, and acceptance. Learn self-care and advocate for your own best mental, physical and spiritual health. Be influential. Be the light for others. As Gandhi said, “Be the change.” Live in a way you wish others can live their lives. Thanks for letting me share my 7 Rules for Life.

Teen Mental Health Motivational & Educational Consultant: Jeff Yalden

Jeff Yalden is highly regarded as the number one Teen Mental Health Speaker in all of North America. Jeff is a Suicide Crisis Intervention Expert and Suicide Prevention Trainer working with hundreds of school communities every year. He’s an Amazon Best Selling Author of four books, including Teen Suicide: The WHY Behind Today’s Suicide Epidemic and BOOM: One Word to Instantly Inspire Action, Deliver Rewards, and Positively Affect Your Life Every Day!  His podcast, Mental Health & Motivation: The Unlikely Life Coach continues to attract thousands of new subscribers every month for his direct talk and influence on families and teens. Since 1992, Jeff Yalden has traveled to 50 states and 48 countries delivering his message, “About Life.” From 2005-2011, Jeff was a celebrity teen and family life coach on MTV’s hit realty show MADE. As a celebrity teen & family life coach, Jeff gets the heart of the matter helping teens, young adults, families, and communities in their struggles together. He’s a Gulf War Veteran and a two- time Marine-of-the-year recipient 1991-1992. He was Mr. New Hampshire Male America, 1990. Every year over 1 million people are left inspired by Jeff Yalden’s inexhaustible energy that permeates after he speaks. Jeff has an online suicide prevention course for school communities, parents, teachers, staff, and teens. Check it out HERE. For more information, please visit www.jeffyalden.com and www.thejyf.org PURCHASE Jeff’s new book, Teen Suicide: The “Why” Behind America’s Suicide Epidemic Link to Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/jeffyaldenfoundation Click HERE for school resources. Join Mailing List: Text YALDEN to 66866

Drilling Down on The BOOM 28-Day Boot Camp: Day 28

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Right here on this blog, youth motivational speaker and Amazon bestselling author Jeff Yalden has been laying out the daily principles from his new workbook and planner, The BOOM 28 Day Boot Camp: Creating a Life of Success. Find Motivation. Crush Goals. Overcome Obstacles. Live with Purpose.
  If you have been thinking about getting serious with BOOM Boot Camp, there is no time like the present. Start HERE. If you have been putting in consistent work on the 27 previous days, congratulations! You are well on your way to creating your life of success – and you are ready to go to work on the final step – Day 28”

Discipline Your Time

“If it’s important to you, you will make the time,” Yalden said. “That’s the bottom line.” Don’t even think about saying that you are going to wait until Monday or that you are going to start on January first. It doesn’t work that way, according to Yalden. “If you say those things, you’re not really committed.” If you are not committed, go back to Day One. If it’s important, you will make the time. It it’s important, you will make this a priority. Discipline yourself to make time to focus on you. “Every single day, I want you to create your to-do list. Every single morning, you look at your to-do list. At night, take another look at your to-do list. Cross out what you’ve completed and rewrite it, or wait until morning and rewrite things then, whatever you do. What is not completed, you move to the next day.” It’s not complicated. Everything that is not completed gets moved over to a new sheet of paper. If you want to go paperless, Yalden recommends the Evernote app. “I love Evernote. Download. Use it. Create notebooks and make all your notes there,” he said. “You just simply, ‘Yep, I did this – delete. What’s next,’ – and just keep a to-do list continually going.” Yalden can’t make the point strong enough when he says that if something is important to you, then you are going to make it a habit. “Listen, folks: Nothing changes if nothing changes. I want you to choose right now to make changes in your life. I gave you 28 Days for you to refocus, reengage and to make a plan. Let’s not complicate it. From the very beginning, I said to concentrate on just one thing.” If you spread yourself too thin with vague goals and halfhearted attempts at productivity, Yalden said you will come to the end of the year and realize you didn’t do anything. In one month – 28 Days – I challenged you to pick one thing. Use the 28 Days to focus on that task and complete that task. At the end of the 28 Days, you can go back and pick another thing. Just use the same method that I gave you from Day One to Day 28. Discipline Your Time with a set wake-up time and a set bedtime. “Discipline the time when you take a lunch break, and even what you do during your lunch break. We discipline time for things like our kids, our significant others and work – but when we have free time, we don’t ever really discipline that time.” Yalden wants you to discipline your free time to get the things done that you have to get done. “When you have ‘me time,’ discipline it. Make it prioritized and focus on your tasks,” he said, adding self-care is not selfish. On this final day of the BOOM Boot Camp, remember these points:
  • Get your sleep.
  • Work on your nutrition
  • Exercise
  • Be present. Be engaged.
“Put down your phone and get more involved,” he said. “The less time you are on your social media, you will come to realize that this consumes a lot of your time. So, discipline that time. If social media is important, then discipline certain parts certain parts of the day for that. But when you have other free time, discipline what’s important at that time.” That’s a wrap: 28 Days to Create a Life of Success. “I am honored you stayed with me,” said Yalden. “Next, I’m doing 28 Days of Gratitude. What are you grateful for, my friends?” Find out why Jeff Yalden is North America’s Number One Youth Motivational Speaker. Go HERE. Jeff’s speaking calendar fills up fast. To book him now for your event, organization or school now, call 800-948-9289. SUBSCRIBE to The BOOM Podcast. GRAB your copy of The BOOM 28-Day Boot Camp Workbook. ORDER Jeff’s Amazon Bestseller, BOOM! One Word to Inspire Action, Deliver Rewards, and Positively Affect Your Life Every Day. JOIN the BOOM Nation Facebook Group and share your BOOM moments with us!

Drilling Down on The BOOM 28-Day Boot Camp: Day 27

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Youth motivational speaker and suicide prevention expert Jeff Yalden has spent much of his career helping people deal with loss. It never gets any easier, and he said he woke up this morning at a loss for words once again – learning more about the victims of Sunday’s horrific massacre in Las Vegas.
  “Deep prayers, thoughts and my condolences to everybody involved,” he said, adding that his love goes out to all first responders and to our lawmakers – trusting that the right people are doing the best job that they can.” The question for Jeff is how to prevent this from ever happening again. “My friends, it’s going to happen. I don’t want to be insensitive about this, but we can’t stop living our lives. We have to focus on the good we can do. We need to keep living. There will be copycats. The news sensationalizes it and gives others permission to be famous for their five minutes.” Now more than ever, we can make a huge difference by being kind and encouraging, supportive, accepting and forgiving. “Diversity is like a quilt; one giant, big blanket made up of many colors, shapes, sizes and fabrics – all woven together to provide warmth and comfort to you and me. Diversity is a great thing,” he said.

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Yalden has been laying out the daily BOOM principles from his new workbook and planner, The BOOM 28 Day Boot Camp: Creating a Life of Success. Find Motivation. Crush Goals. Overcome Obstacles. Live with Purpose. We hope you have been doing the work every day. “Have you gone back and really done these exercises? If you have done the exercises – you should be feeling pretty good right about now,” he said. Here’s your action step for Day 27:

SLEEP, EAT, EXERCISE…REPEAT

Healthy sleep, proper nutrition, and 30 minutes of exercise every day! Make self-care a habit. “Self-care is something that many people think is selfish [because] you are putting yourself before others. It’s not selfish. It’s necessary. It’s completely necessary for all of us – for our families, for work, for our peers and our friends. Self-care is necessary for you and me to stay healthy every single day, to serve in the capacities in which we serve.” Yalden said it’s very important for young people to get eight hours of uninterrupted sleep per night -and the average adult needs between seven and eight hours. “Turn off your phone and your electronics. Turn off the television and the lights and go to bed. Get your uninterrupted sleep. BOOM! Wake up. Wash your face, brush your teeth, do your dance – and go out and be awesome.” If you can sneak in a nap during the day for 30 minutes or an hour, go for it. That’s a good thing. Close your eyes. Meditate. Breathe – and just allow yourself to get deep. Get proper nutrition. This isn’t rocket science. “They say that we consume 200-300 grams more of sugar a day more than the average person should be consuming, he said. “First thing in the morning, get your water. Water. Water. Water. Eight or 16 ounces. Re-hydrate yourself as much as you can from the night before.” Consume more protein and less carbs. Protein builds and repairs muscles. Look at the carbs you are eating. There are good carbs [whole grains, vegetables, fruits, beans] and bad carbs [white bread, white rice]. “Try and get your good carbs in early in the day. An apple a day is great, but again there are sugars in there. But an apple is better than Captain Crunch cereal and a banana is better than Pop-Tarts, so make good choices. Nutrition. Nutrition. Nutrition.” Get rid of sodas [even diet sodas] and fruit drinks and just go to water or maybe Crystal Light. “There is a chemical in diet sodas that makes you crave more food,” Yalden said. Get out there and exercise. “I know some of you don’t like to sweat, and some of you don’t exercise. Get out there and get some walking in. Get the body moving. Mobility. Flexibility. Get your heart rate up. When you exercise more than 30 minutes a day, your endorphins start kicking and you feel good. Go out there, and you are ready to own the day.” You are almost there. Tomorrow marks the final installment of this BOOM Boot Camp. Day 28. See you then. Find out why Jeff Yalden is North America’s Number One Youth Motivational Speaker. Go HERE. Jeff’s speaking calendar fills up fast. To book him now for your event, organization or school now, call 800-948-9289. SUBSCRIBE to The BOOM Podcast. GRAB your copy of The BOOM 28-Day Boot Camp Workbook. ORDER Jeff’s Amazon Bestseller, BOOM! One Word to Inspire Action, Deliver Rewards, and Positively Affect Your Life Every Day. JOIN the BOOM Nation Facebook Group and share your BOOM moments with us!

Drilling Down on The BOOM 28-Day Boot Camp: Day 26

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Youth motivational speaker and Amazon bestselling author Jeff Yalden did the following Facebook Live video the day after the horrendous massacre in Las Vegas.
  “I am at a loss for words over this,” he said. “God bless America. God bless all my friends in Vegas. My prayers and thoughts and condolences to all of the people that are suffering – the families that are hurt – and God bless all the first responders that were there last night and continue to be there now.” He had been flying all day: Myrtle Beach to Charlotte to Chicago and finally, Salt Lake City – taking in the news of the tragedy from local newspapers. He noticed something in the news – a question about whether public events are safe to attend anymore. “Ladies and gentlemen – we can’t stop living. we can’t let these people affect our lives every single day, so that we are just very cautious about [everything] we do. We have to go about our days – go about our lives, living the best lives we can. But we need to go out being part of the solution; not the problem. We need to go out and be more kind, helpful, selfless – and more serving,” he said. Yalden has been laying out the daily principles from his new workbook, The BOOM 28 Day Boot Camp: Creating a Life of Success. Find Motivation. Crush Goals. Overcome Obstacles. Live with Purpose. If you have been taking action on The BOOM Boot Camp and putting in the work every day, you are now ready to deploy Day 26:

CREATE AFFIRMATIONS

According to www.mindtools.com, affirmations are positive, specific statements that help you to overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. They help you visualize, and believe in, what you’re affirming to yourself, helping you to make positive changes. “You can’t be this person that is giving of yourself if you don’t feel good about who you are as a person,” he said. “Many of us have these doubts that plague us every single day: We think we’re not smart enough, pretty enough, strong enough – fast enough. We think don’t have the ability.” Do a Google search for Positive Affirmations and write down the ones that resonate with you. Write down as few or as many as you want. “What I challenge you to do is this: Every morning when you are taking that time for yourself [remember, we talked about setting up a time every day for you]. As you are meditating and breathing – in your zone – you are like, “I am smart. I am strong. I am capable. I deserve good things to come my way. Losing weight is easy. I deserve a job promotion.’ And you just repeat it. Keep repeating it until you believe it.” When you repeat an affirmation, Yalden said that you are building your confidence. “You are communicating with yourself in a positive way that is going to overcome or eliminate those self-sabotaging self-doubts – those beliefs where you sell yourself short – where you ‘can’t so this’ or you ‘can’t do that’ or you ‘are not capable.’ Let’s replace all of that with positive affirmations every single day when you look in the mirror.” It’s that simple. Create affirmations. Find out why Jeff Yalden is North America’s Number One Youth Motivational Speaker. Go HERE. Jeff’s speaking calendar fills up fast. To book him now for your event, organization or school now, call 800-948-9289. SUBSCRIBE to The BOOM Podcast. GRAB your copy of The BOOM 28-Day Boot Camp Workbook. ORDER Jeff’s Amazon Bestseller, BOOM! One Word to Inspire Action, Deliver Rewards, and Positively Affect Your Life Every Day. JOIN the BOOM Nation Facebook Group and share your BOOM moments with us!

Drilling Down on The BOOM 28-Day Boot Camp: Day 25

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In Episode 40 of The BOOM Podcast, youth motivational speaker and author Jeff Yalden said that we all have a story that we keep to ourselves. Our family and close friends have stories too, and we might only know parts of their stories – often the parts they want us to know.
  “Within our stories, there are people that have trespassed against us, and maybe we haven’t learned to forgive them yet,” said Yalden. “I think there are also people that we have hurt – and maybe we have lost many of our relationships as a result of that, and yet we haven’t forgiven ourselves either.” In this blog, Yalden has been laying out the principles from his new workbook, The BOOM 28 Day Boot Camp: Creating a Life of Success. Find Motivation. Crush Goals. Overcome Obstacles. Live with Purpose. If you have been putting in consistent work on these BOOM action steps, you are now ready for Day 25:

Choose Forgiveness

According to Yalden. forgiveness is not about forgetting what may have taken place. “We don’t forgive people for them. When we forgive people, we choose to forgive people for ourselves,” he said. Coming from his experience with mental health, Yalden said that one of the greatest things we need to learn with anybody that may have done us wrong is that it doesn’t matter if they think they wronged us or not. “What does matter is that we forgive so that in our heart, we move forward. Remember that none of us are perfect. We have all hurt other people. Yalden suffers from bipolar II disorder, and something he learned a long time ago was that he might react badly to a situation in the moment, and then regret sets in. Reacting badly in an interpersonal situation might include hurtful language. “In those moments, we don’t care – and then in 24 hours, we hate ourselves for treating someone like that, and the pain just lingers,” he said. Yalden said that the two things we can’t take back are time and words. “If you have hurt someone, I want to challenge you to reach out to those people – and I want you to apologize and ask for their forgiveness.” Make sure you understand that a person will either forgive you or they won’t. Sometimes they won’t even acknowledge you. Be prepared for either outcome. “You are reaching out to them and you are apologizing. If they choose to accept your apology, that’s great. If they choose not to accept your apology – that is their prerogative. But at this point, it’s not about you anymore. That’s about them, and you need to walk away and move forward in your life,” Yalden said. Who do you need to forgive? What did they do? Why do you need to forgive them – and if you are able to forgive them, how is that going to make you now feel? “We need to learn to live [in our heads] rent-free. So many of us are so congested with this or that – congested with family issues, work issues – with our professional and personal lives. I understand, but I think one thing: Whether it’s our fault or it’s not our fault, we are responsible” Yalden realizes that there are certain things when we might not have been at fault, but we are still responsible for how we handle things – how we react. “We can choose to be angry and bitter. What does that do? Or we can choose to become better. Obviously, that’s the better choice. If you choose to be a victim, what does that do? We are not victims. We are victors. We rise up through everything, so no matter what we go through in life – bad or good – we have something to do with it, and we have the responsibility to respond appropriately.” Choose forgiveness. “Remember: It’s not for them. You are forgiving people for yourself.” Find out why Jeff Yalden is North America’s Number One Youth Motivational Speaker. Go HERE. Jeff’s speaking calendar fills up fast. To book him now for your event, organization or school now, call 800-948-9289. LISTEN to this episode of The BOOM Podcast. SUBSCRIBE to The BOOM Podcast. GRAB your copy of The BOOM 28-Day Boot Camp Workbook. ORDER Jeff’s Amazon Bestseller, BOOM! One Word to Inspire Action, Deliver Rewards, and Positively Affect Your Life Every Day. JOIN the BOOM Nation Facebook Group and share your BOOM moments with us!

Drilling Down on the BOOM 28-Day Boot Camp: Day 24

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Youth motivational speaker and author Jeff Yalden said that sometimes we get so caught up in your days and what we need to get done that we never stop to think about we appreciate every day. Sometimes we take the little things for granted.
  In Episode 38 of The BOOM Podcast, Yalden continues to lay out the daily principles from his new workbook, The BOOM 28 Day Boot Camp: Creating a Life of Success. Find Motivation. Crush Goals. Overcome Obstacles. Live with Purpose. This workbook and planner is the perfect companion to Yalden’s Amazon bestseller, BOOM! One Word to Inspire Action, Deliver Rewards, and Positively Affect Your Life Every Day. If you have been taking action daily on the action steps in the BOOM Boot Camp, you already know that these principals can change your life because you have been putting in the work. If you have not yet started the BOOM Boot Camp, stop reading this post and go HERE. For those of you who are ready – here’s Day 24:

Create an Attitude of Gratitude

One way to ensure that you develop an Attitude of Gratitude is to start and keep a gratitude journal, or a journal of appreciation. As soon as you wake up each morning, write down the five things that you are most grateful for that day. “The challenge is that no day can ever be a repeat of the day before,” said Yalden. When he recorded this podcast episode, Yalden was in Charlotte, North Carolina, preparing for four speaking engagements over the course of two days. He has his video team with him. “One of the things that I am really grateful for is the fact that my video guys had the time to come and help me, and that I am in a position where I can start to bring a team together,” he said. “I am grateful for that, so that’s number one.” Gratitude point number two was the fact that he was speaking in the state of North Carolina. Although he lives in the in the Myrtle Beach area, he doesn’t speak in the South very often. Thirdly, Yalden was grateful that he gave himself plenty of time to prepare for these speaking engagements. “I was able to get up and rest and relax and get some things done. I am at the school early, I am prepared and I have got plenty of time to do my routine.” Point number four was an appreciation for the time of year. In September, it was still nice and warm, but Yalden said there was a little bit of coolness in the air, and the weather was absolutely beautiful. After undergoing weight loss surgery [he is down 85 pounds] and working out regularly, Yalden is feeling good. He has experienced a very definite upswing in his overall health as well as his energy levels. That was point number five in his gratitude journal for that day. “Sometimes part of your morning routine should be about reflection and what you are appreciative of,” he said. “Start your day every single day with five things that you are grateful for, and don’t let any one day be a repeat of the day before. I promise: If you do that for two weeks, you are going to start appreciating little things in life.” He cited author Rhonda Byrne in her mega-bestseller, The Secret, who suggested trying to say “thank you” at least 25 times a day for the little things. “If someone lets you walk past them as they open the door, say ‘thank you.’ If someone stops and lets you drive by, you wave and say, ‘thank you.’ Anybody that you come in contact with that does something for you – stop for a second, pay attention to that – and just say, ‘thank you.’” Create an Attitude of Gratitude. Find out why Jeff Yalden is North America’s Number One Youth Motivational Speaker. Go HERE. Jeff’s speaking calendar fills up fast. To book him now for your event, organization or school now, call 800-948-9289. LISTEN to this episode of The BOOM Podcast. SUBSCRIBE to The BOOM Podcast. GRAB your copy of The BOOM 28-Day Boot Camp Workbook. ORDER Jeff’s Amazon Bestseller, BOOM! One Word to Inspire Action, Deliver Rewards, and Positively Affect Your Life Every Day. JOIN the BOOM Nation Facebook Group and share your BOOM moments with us!

Drilling Down on The BOOM 28-Day Boot Camp: Day 23

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We hope you have been doing more than simply following along as youth motivational speaker and Amazon bestselling author Jeff Yalden has been laying out the daily steps from his new workbook, The BOOM 28 Day Boot Camp: Creating a Life of Success. Find Motivation. Crush Goals. Overcome Obstacles. Live with Purpose.
  Yalden can deliver these messages until he is blue in the face, but only you can put in the work necessary to bring about the changes you want to make in your life. On days 18, 19 and 21 – Yalden talked about looking in the mirror and taking personal responsibility for your life, being accountable, making adjustments and the importance of  regular self-assessment. The action step for today, Day 23, can also be done in the mirror:

Ask Better Questions

“Years ago, when I went through a divorce, I found myself one day looking in the mirror,” Yalden said. “When I looked in the mirror, I said, ‘What did I have to do with this?’” He said it would have been easy to blame is ex, or on family, money or many other things – and sometimes we all do that. But instead, Yalden had a heart-to-heart right there in the mirror, and he asked himself what he had to do with the marriage not going right. Since then, Yalden said that whenever something is not right in certain situations or circumstances, he has continued to go to the mirror to ask what he had to do with these things. “Whether it’s good or bad, whether you are successful or have failed at something – you have something to do with that,” he said. He said you might not be the reason this happened, but you have responsibility for how you move forward. You are responsible for your emotions, your attitude and your choices. “Are you going to be bitter and angry through this, or are you going to choose to become better? Are you a victim of situations and circumstances, or are you a victor?” Learn to ask better questions. Change the quality of the questions you ask from “why me” to “how can I.” “Here’s something even better: How can I be more present and engaged in my day?” Yalden believes [and so should you] that everything that we go through in life molds us into the person of character that we are meant to be. Character. Significance. Influence. Success. “If you are a person that claims to be the victim, I think you need to spend more time in front of the mirror and taking responsibility.” If you are bitter and angry in situations, Yalden said there are two causes for this:
  1. You haven’t learned to accept responsibility for the things you need to take responsibility for.
  2. You haven’t allowed yourself to be free and forgive both others and yourself.
How can you be more accepting? How can you be more forgiving? “Forgiving people is not about them,” he said. “It’s about doing what’s right in your heart, and maybe forgiving people for yourself is what you need.” Ask better questions. Find out why Jeff Yalden is North America’s Number One Youth Motivational Speaker. Go HERE. Jeff’s speaking calendar fills up fast. To book him now for your event, organization or school now, call 800-948-9289. LISTEN to this episode of The BOOM Podcast. SUBSCRIBE to The BOOM Podcast. GRAB your copy of The BOOM 28-Day Boot Camp Workbook. ORDER Jeff’s Amazon Bestseller, BOOM! One Word to Inspire Action, Deliver Rewards, and Positively Affect Your Life Every Day. JOIN the BOOM Nation Facebook Group and share your BOOM moments with us!

Drilling Down on The BOOM 28-Day Boot Camp: Day 22

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“If you play with dogs, you have fun. If you swim with sharks, you get eaten,” said youth motivational speaker in his Amazon bestseller, BOOM! One Word to Inspire Action, Deliver Rewards, and Positively Affect Your Life Every Day.
  Yalden laid out the principles from BOOM into daily action steps in his brand-new workbook and planner, The BOOM 28 Day Boot Camp: Creating a Life of Success. Find Motivation. Crush Goals. Overcome Obstacles. Live with Purpose. The BOOM principles will change your life, and Yalden has been drilling down on each of the daily tasks for this blog. But remember: Only you can do the work necessary to create your life of success. We hope you have been taking action every day. If you have been putting in the work, you are now ready for Day 22:

Identify Your Close Circle

Don’t forget: You are your associates. Yalden said that personal development guru, Jim Rohn, used to say that we are the average of the five people we hang out with the most. “If your tribe is full of complainers and naysayers, then it stands to reason that this negativity will ultimately rub off on you, robbing you of your effectiveness and taking you out of purpose,” Yalden said. We have all seen old married couples who seem to have morphed into the same person, telling the same stories and taking on the personality traits of the other. “Have you noticed that dogs sometimes take on the same temperament as their owners? I have, and I am sure you have too.” Be careful whom you choose to spend time with. “If your circle of friends brings you down, it’s time to make a change. If that change means changing your circle of friends, then change your circle of friends. Spend time with those who encourage and inspire you, and you will immediately notice the positive upswing in your daily life. Keep people close who are willing to tell you the naked truth and push you toward your goals. These people are your BOOM team of supporters.” Part of your self-esteem and fulfillment comes from being of value to others, so remember – it’s not just about what people can do for you, but also what you can do for others. Develop this close circle of like-minded comrades. “If you occasionally want to venture out for a night on the town with old pals from school who aren’t part of your close circle, no problem – but be sure you know when to buckle down. Do not get sucked into constant time-wasting activities with people you are friendly with, but whom you know will only hold you back.” Keep in touch with loved ones but don’t become a guest at anybody’s pity party. Connect often with people that are most important to you, and don’t forget to be of service to others. Sometimes we need to close our circle. We need to take out some of the negative energy – and leave in the people that are supportive and encouraging – the people that have our backs. Identify your circle of friends. “If I were to give you a dollar, would you rather have four quarters or 100 pennies? You probably said you would rather four quarters. Why? Less is more, my friends,” Yalden said. Sometimes if we have too much, we get overwhelmed. We get sidetracked. No drama. Identify your close circle. Find out why Jeff Yalden is North America’s Number One Youth Motivational Speaker. Go HERE. Jeff’s speaking calendar fills up fast. To book him now for your event, organization or school now, call 800-948-9289. SUBSCRIBE to The BOOM Podcast. GRAB your copy of The BOOM 28-Day Boot Camp Workbook. ORDER Jeff’s Amazon Bestseller, BOOM! One Word to Inspire Action, Deliver Rewards, and Positively Affect Your Life Every Day.

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