CREATE AFFIRMATIONSAccording to www.mindtools.com, afﬁrmations are positive, speciﬁc statements that help you to overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. They help you visualize, and believe in, what you’re afﬁrming to yourself, helping you to make positive changes. “You can’t be this person that is giving of yourself if you don’t feel good about who you are as a person,” he said. “Many of us have these doubts that plague us every single day: We think we’re not smart enough, pretty enough, strong enough – fast enough. We think don’t have the ability.” Do a Google search for Positive Affirmations and write down the ones that resonate with you. Write down as few or as many as you want. “What I challenge you to do is this: Every morning when you are taking that time for yourself [remember, we talked about setting up a time every day for you]. As you are meditating and breathing – in your zone – you are like, “I am smart. I am strong. I am capable. I deserve good things to come my way. Losing weight is easy. I deserve a job promotion.’ And you just repeat it. Keep repeating it until you believe it.” When you repeat an affirmation, Yalden said that you are building your confidence. “You are communicating with yourself in a positive way that is going to overcome or eliminate those self-sabotaging self-doubts – those beliefs where you sell yourself short – where you ‘can’t so this’ or you ‘can’t do that’ or you ‘are not capable.’ Let’s replace all of that with positive affirmations every single day when you look in the mirror.” It’s that simple. Create affirmations. Find out why Jeff Yalden is North America’s Number One Youth Motivational Speaker. Go HERE. Jeff’s speaking calendar fills up fast. To book him now for your event, organization or school now, call 800-948-9289. SUBSCRIBE to The BOOM Podcast. GRAB your copy of The BOOM 28-Day Boot Camp Workbook. ORDER Jeff’s Amazon Bestseller, BOOM! One Word to Inspire Action, Deliver Rewards, and Positively Affect Your Life Every Day. JOIN the BOOM Nation Facebook Group and share your BOOM moments with us!
Youth motivational speaker and Amazon bestselling author Jeff Yalden did the following Facebook Live video the day after the horrendous massacre in Las Vegas. “I am at a loss for words over this,” he said. “God bless America. God bless all my friends in Vegas. My prayers and thoughts and condolences to all of the people that are suffering – the families that are hurt – and God bless all the first responders that were there last night and continue to be there now.” He had been flying all day: Myrtle Beach to Charlotte to Chicago and finally, Salt Lake City – taking in the news of the tragedy from local newspapers. He noticed something in the news – a question about whether public events are safe to attend anymore. “Ladies and gentlemen – we can’t stop living. we can’t let these people affect our lives every single day, so that we are just very cautious about [everything] we do. We have to go about our days – go about our lives, living the best lives we can. But we need to go out being part of the solution; not the problem. We need to go out and be more kind, helpful, selfless – and more serving,” he said. Yalden has been laying out the daily principles from his new workbook, The BOOM 28 Day Boot Camp: Creating a Life of Success. Find Motivation. Crush Goals. Overcome Obstacles. Live with Purpose. If you have been taking action on The BOOM Boot Camp and putting in the work every day, you are now ready to deploy Day 26:
Leading Teen Motivational Speaker Inspires in Canada Jeff Yalden at Lakes District Secondary School By Roger Yale for Jeff Yalden, Youth Motivational Speaker The second leg of teen motivational speaker Jeff Yalden’s trip to British Columbia found him in the Village of Burns Lake, which is touted as the gateway to Tweedsmuir Provincial Park, a protected area encompassing a jaw-dropping 3,790 square miles of Western Canadian splendor. “One of the things I really enjoy about what I do is having the opportunity to look out the windshield and see beautiful country in different parts of the world,” he said. Yalden was brought in by an organization called the Nechako area Children and Youth Mental Health and Substance Use Collaborative [CYMHSU], which is in place to provide mental health and substance abuse support to individuals and families in British Columbia. He spoke to an assembly of grades 8-12 at Lakes District Secondary School on Thursday, February 23. “This was a very intimate session with about 500 kids. We spoke for two hours about mental health, dealing with anger, perseverance, anxiety, how to deal with your emotions, and self-esteem,” he said. Jeff was impressed with the positive vibe as soon as he arrived. “My favorite part of walking into a school is when you see the positive inspiration that surrounds them every day. I think it’s important to dress up the school and make it a home – and environment that fosters learning, love and caring – perseverance and overcoming challenges. I love it.” School staffers cited high stress levels in the 12th graders from factors like academics and peer pressure, and Yalden drew on tried-and-true topics from his motivational toolbox – including transition, resilience and mental health. “The best way to build self-esteem is to be challenged with something and to be able to work your way through it,” he said. He also urged students who felt overwhelmed to find adults that they trust and respect – and whose opinions they value – and don’t be afraid to go to them. “If you ask me, overnight success takes 15 to 20 years,” he said. He asked the students what they were willing to work hard to accomplish, and placed the responsibility directly on their shoulders. “As parents, we do the best we can but we are not perfect. Sometimes we want to give you our wisdom and experience – but ultimately this is your life. This is your dream. This is your world.” Yalden told them to be sure to write down their dreams, turn them into plans and back up those plans with consistent action. Of course, many things can threaten to take a person out of purpose – but we can get back on track by asking better questions. “Many of us deal with abuse. We deal with alcoholism, blended families, divorce and financial struggles. I get it. But I want every one of you to understand that through the struggles – the trials and tribulations – you still have a purpose and a life to live. Start at the beginning, and value yourself,” he said. Jeff Yalden has addressed more than 4000 teen audiences in all 50 states, every province in Canada and 49 countries. Find out more at www.jeffyalden.com. Jeff’s speaking calendar fills up fast. Book him now by calling 800-948-9289. TAGS: British Columbia, Jeff Yalden, Teen Motivational Speaker, Burns Lake, Lakes District Secondary School, Tweedsmuir Provincial Park, Children and Youth Mental Health and Substance Use Collaborative, Youth Motivational Speaker, Suicide Prevention Speaker, Parenting, Responsibility, Canada, Mental Health Awareness, Secondary School Speaker, School Assembly Speaker, Canadian Mental Health, Teen Mental Health Speaker
Top Teen Suicide Prevention Speaker Visits Vanderhoof, British Columbia Jeff Yalden Galvanizes Nechako Valley Secondary School By Roger Yale for Jeff Yalden, Teen Motivational Speaker Vanderhoof, British Columbia, is a small Canadian municipality nearly a thousand miles north of Seattle. It was the first stop on a two-day speaking trip for North America’s top teen motivational speaker, Jeff Yalden. “The one thing I notice that is really different about being up in Canada is the people,” he said. Canadians are real nice and instantly they become like family.” Yalden was booked for a full day at Nechako Valley Secondary School on February 22, which included a school assembly, visits with at-risk kids and a Parent/Community program focusing on teen mental health and suicide prevention. Nechako Valley Secondary School serves grades 7-12, boasts more than 600 students and has been in place since 1955. Yalden said he spent a lot of time visiting with all the seventh and eighth graders in individual classrooms after meeting his contact, local government employee Debra Sewell and school principal Ken Young. “One of the things I love about coming into a community and getting ready to speak early is that you get to speak to the principal and the people who brought you in and ask them, ‘if you were speaking to these kids, what would you want to say.’” He also had the opportunity to meet a young lady named Ashley, 19, who is part of a Local Action Team in Vanderhoof. “Ashley is doing great things with the local government – trying to reduce the stigma of mental health, encouraging people to step up and do and say something,” he said. Many of the kids told Yalden that he was hilarious and the assembly was funny. “Well, I’m not really brought in to be funny, but sometimes you’ve got to deliver the content through humor – and that was great.” During the assembly, he stressed the importance of personal responsibility and living in the now. “If we can’t appreciate now, then we will never be grateful for what that can be about. If life knocks you down, you get back up and strive to get back ‘in purpose,’” he said. Yalden spoke about recent suicides in the United States, including the suicide of high school senior Quai Horton in Des Moines, Iowa. Horton left many direct verbal clues on social media prior to making what Yalden calls the forever decision to take his own life. “One of the things we want to teach our young people is – the right thing to do is when you know something is going on with one of your friends and to be able to say something – and to get your friend the help that they need. That’s what a good friend does,” he said. Later, Yalden met with a small group of at-risk kids, meeting them on their level. “At first, they didn’t want anything to do with it, but once I started using a little bit of the language that they were very used to using – that turned into just an absolutely incredible hour-long conversation.” He was also happy with the turnout at the evening’s Parent/Community program. “I was impressed with the enthusiastic and caring team of staff/teachers and school administration, and very, very impressed with the local mental health community that is rallying to bring all of this to their communities up here in British Columbia.” Find out why Jeff is the perfect choice for your school, organization or event by visiting www.jeffyalden.com. Why wait? Book Jeff now by calling 800-948-9289. TAGS: British Columbia, Jeff Yalden, Teen Suicide, Vanderhoof, Nechako Valley Secondary School., Suicide Prevention, Teen Suicide Prevention, Parenting, Responsibility, Youth Motivational Speaker, Vanderhoof Local Action Team, Canada, Mental Health Awareness, Secondary School Speaker, School Assembly Speaker, Canadian Mental Health, Teen Mental Health Speaker
Best Youth Motivational Speaker Inspires in Lena, Wisconsin Jeff Yalden Delivers at Wisconsin Student Council Event in Lena, WI. By Roger Yale for Jeff Yalden, Youth Motivational Speaker By all accounts, the school district in the Village of Lena, Wisconsin is a small one – consisting of an elementary school, a combined middle and high school and an alternative school with a total population of just over 400 kids. Lena itself is a very small community. But administrators in many bigger districts with overcrowded and understaffed schools would perhaps see the incredible value in this. The Lena Public School District’s website boasts that “we have low student to teacher ratios as well as the opportunity for individual attention that is attainable in a small district. Some students do not realize the advantage we, as Lena Wildcats, have.” On Monday, February 13, top teen motivational speaker Jeff Yalden was on hand for a high school student council event for 47 students from 9 surrounding schools – speaking on topics from his toolbox such as personal leadership, leading by influence and the importance of believing in yourself. Yalden was impressed with a student named Josh, who displayed excellent leadership traits and unselfishness right off the bat. “We always talk about student leadership and your influence on people. Every school has students or a student we always see sitting alone. We always talk about – ‘hey, go introduce yourself to that person or go befriend that person. Invite them over to sit with your friends.’ Well I brought my nephew Gus to this conference – I just watched [Josh] get up out of his group friends and go introduce himself to Gus and to over to the students sitting alone – and invited them to sit with his group.” To Yalden, that’s what leadership is – reaching out of your comfort zone and making sure that everybody is a part of the team. “Leadership is about doing the right thing,” he said. Lunch was then served by the school’s culinary class. “They did a beautiful lunch. The food class did an incredible job of serving all of the kids and the advisors,” Yalden said. After lunch, Jeff presented a leadership-building activity that he calls “The Longest Human Bridge,” where groups were challenged to connect with each other, with very little contact with the ground. The point of this exercise was summed up by Yalden: “I wanted them to understand the importance of communication and to think outside the box – to work together and to never give up,” he said. Yalden, who has has addressed more than 4000 teen audiences in all 50 states, every province in Canada and 49 countries, said the challenge he encountered with the kids in Lena was that they were very quiet. “We were north of Green Bay by about 30 minutes, and I don’t know if these kids were just shocked, but I have been noticing that a lot of young people today are just very quiet. But nonetheless, they were awesome.” At the end of the day, Yalden spoke to the middle school and high school students from the Lena School District. “It’s hard to make students and adults happy at the same time – but for an hour and ten minutes, we had an absolute blast,” he said. “Kids and teachers were laughing hysterically, and it was so much fun. We talked about believing in yourself, your attitude, your choices – doing the best you can, and goal setting.” Yalden has long believed that a dream will always be a dream unless it is backed up by a plan of action, and he set about to teach these students that important difference. “True leaders do not compare themselves to other people. Too many of you are willing to compromise your success for what you want right now,” he said. Find out why Jeff Yalden is North America’s Number One Youth Motivational Speaker, go to www.jeffyalden.com. Recently, Jeff was the keynote speaker for the Arizona State Student Council Conference too. Watch his video here: To book Jeff now for your event, organization or school now, call 800-948-9289. Best High School Motivational Speaker, Character Education, Character Education Speakers, Lena School District, Lena Wisconsin, High School Speaker, Wisconsin, Wisconsin Schools, Green Bay, Student Council, Leadership, Jeff Yalden, Mental Health Speaker, Teen Mental Health Awareness, Teen Mental Health Speaker, Teen Speaker, Youth Motivational Speaker
Namaste!, my friends. My name is Jeff Yalden. I’m a suicide prevention expert, youth motivational speaker speaking at high schools around the country, and do a lot of work with teen mental health and teen suicide. I’m not a Hindu and I don’t subscribe to any specific form of religion, but I live with faith, respect and follow my own moral compass. For this reason I can only discuss what the meaning of Namaste is from my own perspective, which may drastically differ from other interpretations. I believe saying the word and practicing the meaning of the word shows a great respect for the ancient roots of our yoga practice. Thousands of years ago yoga was much more than just the physical act of yoga asana (postures), it was developed as a physical, mental and spiritual practice, a method for people to live with ethics, self-discipline and aid them in accessing their divine self. Nowadays, as we know, yoga asana is primarily practiced in the Western world as a form of exercise, but it doesn’t hurt to recognise these incredible roots and respect yoga’s place as an ancient practice. Every time I say it, I’m reminded of how much I still have to learn about yoga, and myself. Secondly, I respect it’s meaning. Namaste may mean something different to everybody, and if you ask me in three years time I may give you an entirely different response. But today these are my thoughts and I standby them wholeheartedly. So, this is my faith if I have one. This is how I live personally. This is how I feed my heart and my heart gives communities and teens hope. To finish I’ll end with one lovely little word (three guesses!), a word that at first seems so small but actually turns out to be pretty big… Namaste.It seems that every time a community is interested in bringing me in after they’ve experienced a teen suicide or multiple suicides over a period of time they immediately want to know my religious beliefs. The want to know if there is a tone of religion to my work with teens, schools, and communities. In 23 years of youth motivational speaking, high school assemblies, student leadership conferences, and helping communities heal after the loss of a student by suicide, you can bet that none of my clients would ever say, “Jeff Yalden brought religion to a religious tone to any school. So, I’d like to clarify a few things about who I am and my faith. First, I suffer from major depression and PTSD. This is known. I talk about this and my journey of mental health. I am a mental health speaker and proud to be a mental health advocate for teens and parents. I believe in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and monitored medication prescribed from a professional practicing doctor presiding over your care. I’ve been in therapy myself for many years and am currently in therapy. I practice yoga, mindfulness training, meditation, and breathing. This is a daily practice for me and a place I like to be where I can center myself and continue to own my day. Have you ever done yoga? You might have heard the instructor end the class by placing his or her hands in prayer position, either in front of their chest or forehead, bow their head and share the words ‘Namaste’. As you probably looked around you noticed everyone else reciprocating, either saying the words or doing the motions. You nervously do the same but have no real understanding of what you are saying or why you are saying it. This was me when I first started out my journey in yoga. This is normal practice by most yoga teachers. Remove the language and the spirituality associated with yoga and make it more approachable to fitness-minded and health-minded individuals. I recently had spinal cord fusion and am suffering from lower back – herniated disk and degenerative “whatevers” down in my lower back causing incredible pain shooting down my legs into the heels of my feet. Doctors, referrals, x-rays, MRI’s, physical therapy, pain medication, and more. Nothing helps when I follow the system. Frustration! What does help is stretching and practicing yoga daily. My mind is clear. I am patient. I am kind and loving. I have improved mobility. I am confident and relaxed. My pain has diminished. I’m not frustrated. So, when I say, “Namaste”, I mean it when I say it. What does it mean though? In the most simple terms, Namaste is a Sanskrit word and means this: Nama = Bow As = I Te = You So the literal translation is ‘bow I you’ or ‘I bow to you’. It’s origins lie in the Hindu religion as a form of greeting or departing and is a gesture of mutual respect and acknowledgement to recognise the divine in each other. If you Google the word Namaste on the internet you’ll find a million descriptions citing the meaning of the word, it’s significance and it’s relevance in a yoga class.
I HAD heard about all of the dying, about all of the grief, and still I didn’t immediately understand what I was seeing when, at a railroad crossing here, I spotted a man in a blaring orange vest, the kind that road crews and public-safety workers wear. He wasn’t carrying any equipment. He wasn’t engaged in any obvious activity. He shuffled his feet, staring into the distance. Hours later, at the same crossing: an orange-vested woman. Like the man, she just stood there, without evident purpose. “They’re on the lookout,” a friend of mine who lives here explained. “For what?” I asked. “Suicides,” my friend said. Between May 2009 and January 2010, five Palo Alto teenagers ended their lives by stepping in front of trains. And since October of last year, another three Palo Alto teenagers have killed themselves that way, prompting longer hours by more sentries along the tracks. The Palo Alto Weekly refers to the deaths as a “suicide contagion.” And while mental health professionals are rightly careful not to oversimplify or trivialize the psychic distress behind them by focusing on any one possible factor, the contagion has prompted an emotional debate about the kinds of pressures felt by high school students in epicenters of overachievement. This is one such place. Children here grow up in the shadow of Stanford University, which established a new precedent for exclusivity during the recent admissions season, accepting just 5 percent of its applicants. They grow up with parents who have scaled the pinnacles of their professions or are determined to have their offspring do precisely that. They grow up with advanced-placement classes galore, convinced that their futures hinge on perfect SAT scores and preternatural grade-point averages. Experts on sleep are in keen demand. The kids here don’t get enough of it.
If you know of a teen that is suicidal, please have them visit www.NotTheSolution.com and encourage them to seek help immediately!But the situation isn’t so different in the Virginia suburbs of Washington, D.C., where a separate cluster of teen suicides in recent years forced educators and parents to re-examine the messages they give teenagers, intentionally and unintentionally, about what’s expected of them and what’s needed to get ahead in this world. It’s not so different in Chicago’s western suburbs, where a high school teacher recently pulled me aside and, in a pained whisper, insisted that the number of advanced-placement classes that local students feel compelled to take and the number of hospitalizations for depression rise in tandem. These are to some extent problems of affluence and privilege. But they have relevance beyond any one subset of our country’s populace. They reflect a status consciousness that bedevils Americans at all income levels, and they underscore an economic trepidation that is sadly widespread and is seemingly intensified by the gaping divide between the haves and have-nots. The suicide rate among all teenagers has seemingly risen a bit over the last decade. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, it was 8.15 per every 100,000 Americans between the ages of 10 and 24 in 2013, the last year for which complete data is available; the rate was 6.74 in 2003. Many more children think about taking their own lives. According to a 2013 survey by the C.D.C., 17 percent of American high school students had considered suicide in the previous year. Eight percent said they’d attempted it. And suicide clusters have at least as much to do with imitation as with environment, each instance of self-annihilation planting an idea and heightening the possibility of the next. There’s no direct line connecting the pressures of Palo Alto and the deaths. But the community’s soul searching goes beyond those tragedies, to matters plenty important in and of themselves. Are kids here getting to be kids? Does a brand of hovering, exactingly prescriptive parenting put them in unforgiving boxes and prevent them from finding their true selves and true grit? “There’s something about childhood itself in Palo Alto and in communities like Palo Alto that undermines the mental health and wellness of our children,” Julie Lythcott-Haims told me. Lythcott-Haims was a dean at Stanford from 2002 to 2012. She lives in Palo Alto. Her two children, ages 13 and 15, go to school here. And she’s the author of a new book, to be published in June, called “How to Raise an Adult.” It reflects on the shortfalls of some modern parenting, which, in her view, can be not only overprotective but overbearing, micromanaging the lives of children, pointing them toward specific mile markers of achievement and denying them any time to flail or room to fail. They wind up simultaneously frazzled and fragile.
If you know of a teen that is suicidal, please have them visit www.NotTheSolution.com and encourage them to seek help immediately!“The suicides are tragic, but they are at the pointy head of the pyramid, the tippy top,” she said. “Beneath them is a larger number of kids who are really struggling and beneath them is an even larger number of kids who feel an amount of stress and pressure that they shouldn’t be made to and that’s untenable.” THE local media has been rife with commentary, from many perspectives, about the mental health of Palo Alto teenagers. Here is what Carolyn Walworth, a junior at Palo Alto High School, recently wrote: “As I sit in my room staring at the list of colleges I’ve resolved to try to get into, trying to determine my odds of getting into each, I can’t help but feel desolate.” She confessed to panic attacks in class, to menstrual periods missed as a result of exhaustion. “We are not teenagers,” she added. “We are lifeless bodies in a system that breeds competition, hatred, and discourages teamwork and genuine learning.” Adam Strassberg, a psychiatrist and the father of two Palo Alto teenagers, wrote that while many Palo Alto parents are “wealthy and secure beyond imagining,” they’re consumed by fear of losing that perch or failing to bequeath it to their kids. “Maintaining and advancing insidiously high educational standards in our children is a way to soothe this anxiety,” he said. He made these observations apart from the suicides, for which, he emphasized, “There is no single cause.” He recommended lightening children’s schedules, limiting the number of times that they take the SAT, lessening the message that it’s Stanford or bust. “I will never be neutral on this issue,” he wrote. “The ‘Koala Dad’ is the far better parent than the ‘Tiger Mom.’ ” What he was saying — and what’s obvious, but warrants repeating — is that ushering children toward a bright future means getting them there in one piece. There’s a fresh awareness of that here, and perhaps a new receptiveness to some words of his that should echo far beyond Palo Alto: “Want the best for your child, not for your child to be the best.”