- Is my life meaningful?
- Is my life fulfilling?
- Is my life rewarding?
Discipline Your Time“If it’s important to you, you will make the time,” Yalden said. “That’s the bottom line.” Don’t even think about saying that you are going to wait until Monday or that you are going to start on January first. It doesn’t work that way, according to Yalden. “If you say those things, you’re not really committed.” If you are not committed, go back to Day One. If it’s important, you will make the time. It it’s important, you will make this a priority. Discipline yourself to make time to focus on you. “Every single day, I want you to create your to-do list. Every single morning, you look at your to-do list. At night, take another look at your to-do list. Cross out what you’ve completed and rewrite it, or wait until morning and rewrite things then, whatever you do. What is not completed, you move to the next day.” It’s not complicated. Everything that is not completed gets moved over to a new sheet of paper. If you want to go paperless, Yalden recommends the Evernote app. “I love Evernote. Download. Use it. Create notebooks and make all your notes there,” he said. “You just simply, ‘Yep, I did this – delete. What’s next,’ – and just keep a to-do list continually going.” Yalden can’t make the point strong enough when he says that if something is important to you, then you are going to make it a habit. “Listen, folks: Nothing changes if nothing changes. I want you to choose right now to make changes in your life. I gave you 28 Days for you to refocus, reengage and to make a plan. Let’s not complicate it. From the very beginning, I said to concentrate on just one thing.” If you spread yourself too thin with vague goals and halfhearted attempts at productivity, Yalden said you will come to the end of the year and realize you didn’t do anything. In one month – 28 Days – I challenged you to pick one thing. Use the 28 Days to focus on that task and complete that task. At the end of the 28 Days, you can go back and pick another thing. Just use the same method that I gave you from Day One to Day 28. Discipline Your Time with a set wake-up time and a set bedtime. “Discipline the time when you take a lunch break, and even what you do during your lunch break. We discipline time for things like our kids, our significant others and work – but when we have free time, we don’t ever really discipline that time.” Yalden wants you to discipline your free time to get the things done that you have to get done. “When you have ‘me time,’ discipline it. Make it prioritized and focus on your tasks,” he said, adding self-care is not selfish. On this final day of the BOOM Boot Camp, remember these points:
- Get your sleep.
- Work on your nutrition
- Be present. Be engaged.
********Yalden has been laying out the daily BOOM principles from his new workbook and planner, The BOOM 28 Day Boot Camp: Creating a Life of Success. Find Motivation. Crush Goals. Overcome Obstacles. Live with Purpose. We hope you have been doing the work every day. “Have you gone back and really done these exercises? If you have done the exercises – you should be feeling pretty good right about now,” he said. Here’s your action step for Day 27:
SLEEP, EAT, EXERCISE…REPEATHealthy sleep, proper nutrition, and 30 minutes of exercise every day! Make self-care a habit. “Self-care is something that many people think is selfish [because] you are putting yourself before others. It’s not selfish. It’s necessary. It’s completely necessary for all of us – for our families, for work, for our peers and our friends. Self-care is necessary for you and me to stay healthy every single day, to serve in the capacities in which we serve.” Yalden said it’s very important for young people to get eight hours of uninterrupted sleep per night -and the average adult needs between seven and eight hours. “Turn off your phone and your electronics. Turn off the television and the lights and go to bed. Get your uninterrupted sleep. BOOM! Wake up. Wash your face, brush your teeth, do your dance – and go out and be awesome.” If you can sneak in a nap during the day for 30 minutes or an hour, go for it. That’s a good thing. Close your eyes. Meditate. Breathe – and just allow yourself to get deep. Get proper nutrition. This isn’t rocket science. “They say that we consume 200-300 grams more of sugar a day more than the average person should be consuming, he said. “First thing in the morning, get your water. Water. Water. Water. Eight or 16 ounces. Re-hydrate yourself as much as you can from the night before.” Consume more protein and less carbs. Protein builds and repairs muscles. Look at the carbs you are eating. There are good carbs [whole grains, vegetables, fruits, beans] and bad carbs [white bread, white rice]. “Try and get your good carbs in early in the day. An apple a day is great, but again there are sugars in there. But an apple is better than Captain Crunch cereal and a banana is better than Pop-Tarts, so make good choices. Nutrition. Nutrition. Nutrition.” Get rid of sodas [even diet sodas] and fruit drinks and just go to water or maybe Crystal Light. “There is a chemical in diet sodas that makes you crave more food,” Yalden said. Get out there and exercise. “I know some of you don’t like to sweat, and some of you don’t exercise. Get out there and get some walking in. Get the body moving. Mobility. Flexibility. Get your heart rate up. When you exercise more than 30 minutes a day, your endorphins start kicking and you feel good. Go out there, and you are ready to own the day.” You are almost there. Tomorrow marks the final installment of this BOOM Boot Camp. Day 28. See you then. Find out why Jeff Yalden is North America’s Number One Youth Motivational Speaker. Go HERE. Jeff’s speaking calendar fills up fast. To book him now for your event, organization or school now, call 800-948-9289. SUBSCRIBE to The BOOM Podcast. GRAB your copy of The BOOM 28-Day Boot Camp Workbook. ORDER Jeff’s Amazon Bestseller, BOOM! One Word to Inspire Action, Deliver Rewards, and Positively Affect Your Life Every Day. JOIN the BOOM Nation Facebook Group and share your BOOM moments with us!
CREATE AFFIRMATIONSAccording to www.mindtools.com, afﬁrmations are positive, speciﬁc statements that help you to overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. They help you visualize, and believe in, what you’re afﬁrming to yourself, helping you to make positive changes. “You can’t be this person that is giving of yourself if you don’t feel good about who you are as a person,” he said. “Many of us have these doubts that plague us every single day: We think we’re not smart enough, pretty enough, strong enough – fast enough. We think don’t have the ability.” Do a Google search for Positive Affirmations and write down the ones that resonate with you. Write down as few or as many as you want. “What I challenge you to do is this: Every morning when you are taking that time for yourself [remember, we talked about setting up a time every day for you]. As you are meditating and breathing – in your zone – you are like, “I am smart. I am strong. I am capable. I deserve good things to come my way. Losing weight is easy. I deserve a job promotion.’ And you just repeat it. Keep repeating it until you believe it.” When you repeat an affirmation, Yalden said that you are building your confidence. “You are communicating with yourself in a positive way that is going to overcome or eliminate those self-sabotaging self-doubts – those beliefs where you sell yourself short – where you ‘can’t so this’ or you ‘can’t do that’ or you ‘are not capable.’ Let’s replace all of that with positive affirmations every single day when you look in the mirror.” It’s that simple. Create affirmations. Find out why Jeff Yalden is North America’s Number One Youth Motivational Speaker. Go HERE. Jeff’s speaking calendar fills up fast. To book him now for your event, organization or school now, call 800-948-9289. SUBSCRIBE to The BOOM Podcast. GRAB your copy of The BOOM 28-Day Boot Camp Workbook. ORDER Jeff’s Amazon Bestseller, BOOM! One Word to Inspire Action, Deliver Rewards, and Positively Affect Your Life Every Day. JOIN the BOOM Nation Facebook Group and share your BOOM moments with us!
Choose ForgivenessAccording to Yalden. forgiveness is not about forgetting what may have taken place. “We don’t forgive people for them. When we forgive people, we choose to forgive people for ourselves,” he said. Coming from his experience with mental health, Yalden said that one of the greatest things we need to learn with anybody that may have done us wrong is that it doesn’t matter if they think they wronged us or not. “What does matter is that we forgive so that in our heart, we move forward. Remember that none of us are perfect. We have all hurt other people. Yalden suffers from bipolar II disorder, and something he learned a long time ago was that he might react badly to a situation in the moment, and then regret sets in. Reacting badly in an interpersonal situation might include hurtful language. “In those moments, we don’t care – and then in 24 hours, we hate ourselves for treating someone like that, and the pain just lingers,” he said. Yalden said that the two things we can’t take back are time and words. “If you have hurt someone, I want to challenge you to reach out to those people – and I want you to apologize and ask for their forgiveness.” Make sure you understand that a person will either forgive you or they won’t. Sometimes they won’t even acknowledge you. Be prepared for either outcome. “You are reaching out to them and you are apologizing. If they choose to accept your apology, that’s great. If they choose not to accept your apology – that is their prerogative. But at this point, it’s not about you anymore. That’s about them, and you need to walk away and move forward in your life,” Yalden said. Who do you need to forgive? What did they do? Why do you need to forgive them – and if you are able to forgive them, how is that going to make you now feel? “We need to learn to live [in our heads] rent-free. So many of us are so congested with this or that – congested with family issues, work issues – with our professional and personal lives. I understand, but I think one thing: Whether it’s our fault or it’s not our fault, we are responsible” Yalden realizes that there are certain things when we might not have been at fault, but we are still responsible for how we handle things – how we react. “We can choose to be angry and bitter. What does that do? Or we can choose to become better. Obviously, that’s the better choice. If you choose to be a victim, what does that do? We are not victims. We are victors. We rise up through everything, so no matter what we go through in life – bad or good – we have something to do with it, and we have the responsibility to respond appropriately.” Choose forgiveness. “Remember: It’s not for them. You are forgiving people for yourself.” Find out why Jeff Yalden is North America’s Number One Youth Motivational Speaker. Go HERE. Jeff’s speaking calendar fills up fast. To book him now for your event, organization or school now, call 800-948-9289. LISTEN to this episode of The BOOM Podcast. SUBSCRIBE to The BOOM Podcast. GRAB your copy of The BOOM 28-Day Boot Camp Workbook. ORDER Jeff’s Amazon Bestseller, BOOM! One Word to Inspire Action, Deliver Rewards, and Positively Affect Your Life Every Day. JOIN the BOOM Nation Facebook Group and share your BOOM moments with us!
Create an Attitude of GratitudeOne way to ensure that you develop an Attitude of Gratitude is to start and keep a gratitude journal, or a journal of appreciation. As soon as you wake up each morning, write down the five things that you are most grateful for that day. “The challenge is that no day can ever be a repeat of the day before,” said Yalden. When he recorded this podcast episode, Yalden was in Charlotte, North Carolina, preparing for four speaking engagements over the course of two days. He has his video team with him. “One of the things that I am really grateful for is the fact that my video guys had the time to come and help me, and that I am in a position where I can start to bring a team together,” he said. “I am grateful for that, so that’s number one.” Gratitude point number two was the fact that he was speaking in the state of North Carolina. Although he lives in the in the Myrtle Beach area, he doesn’t speak in the South very often. Thirdly, Yalden was grateful that he gave himself plenty of time to prepare for these speaking engagements. “I was able to get up and rest and relax and get some things done. I am at the school early, I am prepared and I have got plenty of time to do my routine.” Point number four was an appreciation for the time of year. In September, it was still nice and warm, but Yalden said there was a little bit of coolness in the air, and the weather was absolutely beautiful. After undergoing weight loss surgery [he is down 85 pounds] and working out regularly, Yalden is feeling good. He has experienced a very definite upswing in his overall health as well as his energy levels. That was point number five in his gratitude journal for that day. “Sometimes part of your morning routine should be about reflection and what you are appreciative of,” he said. “Start your day every single day with five things that you are grateful for, and don’t let any one day be a repeat of the day before. I promise: If you do that for two weeks, you are going to start appreciating little things in life.” He cited author Rhonda Byrne in her mega-bestseller, The Secret, who suggested trying to say “thank you” at least 25 times a day for the little things. “If someone lets you walk past them as they open the door, say ‘thank you.’ If someone stops and lets you drive by, you wave and say, ‘thank you.’ Anybody that you come in contact with that does something for you – stop for a second, pay attention to that – and just say, ‘thank you.’” Create an Attitude of Gratitude. Find out why Jeff Yalden is North America’s Number One Youth Motivational Speaker. Go HERE. Jeff’s speaking calendar fills up fast. To book him now for your event, organization or school now, call 800-948-9289. LISTEN to this episode of The BOOM Podcast. SUBSCRIBE to The BOOM Podcast. GRAB your copy of The BOOM 28-Day Boot Camp Workbook. ORDER Jeff’s Amazon Bestseller, BOOM! One Word to Inspire Action, Deliver Rewards, and Positively Affect Your Life Every Day. JOIN the BOOM Nation Facebook Group and share your BOOM moments with us!
Ask Better Questions“Years ago, when I went through a divorce, I found myself one day looking in the mirror,” Yalden said. “When I looked in the mirror, I said, ‘What did I have to do with this?’” He said it would have been easy to blame is ex, or on family, money or many other things – and sometimes we all do that. But instead, Yalden had a heart-to-heart right there in the mirror, and he asked himself what he had to do with the marriage not going right. Since then, Yalden said that whenever something is not right in certain situations or circumstances, he has continued to go to the mirror to ask what he had to do with these things. “Whether it’s good or bad, whether you are successful or have failed at something – you have something to do with that,” he said. He said you might not be the reason this happened, but you have responsibility for how you move forward. You are responsible for your emotions, your attitude and your choices. “Are you going to be bitter and angry through this, or are you going to choose to become better? Are you a victim of situations and circumstances, or are you a victor?” Learn to ask better questions. Change the quality of the questions you ask from “why me” to “how can I.” “Here’s something even better: How can I be more present and engaged in my day?” Yalden believes [and so should you] that everything that we go through in life molds us into the person of character that we are meant to be. Character. Significance. Influence. Success. “If you are a person that claims to be the victim, I think you need to spend more time in front of the mirror and taking responsibility.” If you are bitter and angry in situations, Yalden said there are two causes for this:
- You haven’t learned to accept responsibility for the things you need to take responsibility for.
- You haven’t allowed yourself to be free and forgive both others and yourself.
Identify Your Close CircleDon’t forget: You are your associates. Yalden said that personal development guru, Jim Rohn, used to say that we are the average of the five people we hang out with the most. “If your tribe is full of complainers and naysayers, then it stands to reason that this negativity will ultimately rub off on you, robbing you of your effectiveness and taking you out of purpose,” Yalden said. We have all seen old married couples who seem to have morphed into the same person, telling the same stories and taking on the personality traits of the other. “Have you noticed that dogs sometimes take on the same temperament as their owners? I have, and I am sure you have too.” Be careful whom you choose to spend time with. “If your circle of friends brings you down, it’s time to make a change. If that change means changing your circle of friends, then change your circle of friends. Spend time with those who encourage and inspire you, and you will immediately notice the positive upswing in your daily life. Keep people close who are willing to tell you the naked truth and push you toward your goals. These people are your BOOM team of supporters.” Part of your self-esteem and fulfillment comes from being of value to others, so remember – it’s not just about what people can do for you, but also what you can do for others. Develop this close circle of like-minded comrades. “If you occasionally want to venture out for a night on the town with old pals from school who aren’t part of your close circle, no problem – but be sure you know when to buckle down. Do not get sucked into constant time-wasting activities with people you are friendly with, but whom you know will only hold you back.” Keep in touch with loved ones but don’t become a guest at anybody’s pity party. Connect often with people that are most important to you, and don’t forget to be of service to others. Sometimes we need to close our circle. We need to take out some of the negative energy – and leave in the people that are supportive and encouraging – the people that have our backs. Identify your circle of friends. “If I were to give you a dollar, would you rather have four quarters or 100 pennies? You probably said you would rather four quarters. Why? Less is more, my friends,” Yalden said. Sometimes if we have too much, we get overwhelmed. We get sidetracked. No drama. Identify your close circle. Find out why Jeff Yalden is North America’s Number One Youth Motivational Speaker. Go HERE. Jeff’s speaking calendar fills up fast. To book him now for your event, organization or school now, call 800-948-9289. SUBSCRIBE to The BOOM Podcast. GRAB your copy of The BOOM 28-Day Boot Camp Workbook. ORDER Jeff’s Amazon Bestseller, BOOM! One Word to Inspire Action, Deliver Rewards, and Positively Affect Your Life Every Day.