If you are at all familiar with Amazon bestselling author Jeff Yalden, you already know that he is passionate about being fully transparent. This includes in large part the fact that he is a man who lives with mental illness, and he is a staunch advocate for mental health. He also believes that mental illness will soon become the biggest public health crisis in the United States.
A while back, he went through a setback.
“I said things I wish I didn’t say and did things I wish I didn’t do – and then I came to realize that I hadn’t been taking my meds,” he said.
While he wishes that didn’t happen, he knows that if you don’t learn from your mistakes, then you don’t grow – and as much as he wishes this setback didn’t happen, he said he appreciated that it did.
“I’ll give you one reason why,” he said. “Many of us who take medication – we think, ‘ah – you know what – I’m feeling good – and now that I am feeling good, I can go off my medication.’ No, my friends – you are doing good because you are taking medication. I’m thankful for last week, because it did remind me that I will be on medication for the rest of my life – and that’s not a bad thing.”
IDENTIFY YOUR CLOSE CIRCLE
Who is in your close circle? Who are your confidants? With whom can you share your deepest self without fear of betrayal?
Jeff is not talking about acquaintances here. He’s talking about those who will go the distance with you: Your family, your significant other – your trusted friends.
“Who are the people in your life that support and encourage you? Who are the people that lift you up when you need to be lifted up? Also – who are those people that you are there for – that you lift up – that you support and encourage?”
No matter how much time goes by, there are certain people in your life that you can call, and it’s like you pick up right where you left off. Consider these people when thinking of your close circle.
“I have a dear, sweet friend named Martine. About a month ago, she was talking about something, and said – ‘you can’t pour from an empty pitcher.’ I thought about that every single day, my friends.”
According to Jeff, part of your self-care should be about being grateful for the people in your life that give you support and love – and that you give support and love in return. This will fill the aforementioned pitcher.
Choose the people who truly understand you, and who are not afraid to call you out when you make a mistake.
“Do you have two or three trusted confidants in your life? If you do, you are a rich person,” he said.
If Jeff wanted to give you a dollar, would you want four quarters or 100 pennies?
“You would probably say four quarters, right? You want to know why? Because less is more. Reach out to your close circle and let them know that you value and appreciate them. That’s a good thing.”
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